Divorce

I have spent time with people who are going through a crisis and I wonder if there is a godly way to get through this. May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else. (1 Thessalonians 3:12)

How does God’s word give them self confidence and lead them to true happiness. In divorce or death, they need to go through periods of grief in order to move on. My eyes are dim with grief. I call to you, O LORD, every day; I spread out my hands to you. (Psalm 88:9)



They need to accept the reality of a loss; Adjust to a world without the other person; Experience the pain; Reinvest emotional energy and withdraw. But I cry to you for help, O LORD; in the morning my prayer comes before you. (Psalm 88:13)



I do admit, as a Christian woman, I tried harder to make their marriage work and make them stay in unhappiness, infidelity, emotional neglect, to stay in physically and mentally abusive relationships, because of what I believe. What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean.(Matthew 15:11)

But I was wrong, and I had a lot to learn about how divorced Christians deserve to be treated.
Please do not tell her what you would have done because this will only undermine her and make her more fragile.

God has shown me that I should not call any man impure or unclean. (Act 10:28)

God: In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. (Genesis 1:1)

Husband: Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church for we are members of his body. (Ephesians 5:28-30)
Wife: For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:23 &24)

Children: Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right."Honor your father and mother" (Ephesians 6:1-2)
What about divorce?
What if separation is the only hope to have a peaceful life? Then perhaps is it better to get a divorce? If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house. (Deuteronomy 24:1)

What about remarriage? Mordecai belonged to the tribe of Benjamin and he took his cousin named Hadassah, also known as Esther as his own daughter when her father and mother died. (Esther 2:5-7)


Esther (Jewish girl) married a divorce and gentile man.Now the king was attracted to Esther so he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti, the queen before Easter (Estheraster 2:17-18)
 And who knows but that you have come to royal position for such a time as this? (Esther 4:14)
I exist because God loves me."Go down to the potter's house, and there I will give you my message." So I went down to the potter's house, and I saw him working at the wheel. But the pot he was shaping from the clay was marred in his hands; so the potter formed it into another pot, shaping it as seemed best to him. (Jeremiah 18:2-4)


Financial support: If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights. (Exodus 21:10)

I Thank God my friend has a strong religious faith to go through a time like this. Equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to who be glory forever and ever. (Hebrew 13:21)
She moves on and forgives her ex who rocked her world. God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. (1 John 4:11)

She prays for her ex and asks God to take the anger out of her.

She stops assuming anything about anybody. "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing." (Luke 23:34)


She will tell you that she does not miss arguing with her ex. Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed. As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy. (1 Peter 1:13-16)
Regardless of her life’s circumstances she found joy in her relationship with God. She knows the results of all her efforts are in God’s hands. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay, “says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Roman 12:17-21)
Divorce was exhausting but now she has a whole new chapter in her life. For the LORD your God will bless you as he has promised, and you will lend too many nations but will borrow from none. You will rule over many nations but none will rule over you. (Deuteronomy 15:6)

She looks different. Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. (Luke 12:32)

She is optimistic about her future. When I was a child, I talked like a child; I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:11-13)
She has positive energy and she thinks positive. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18)
She sings hymns, dances and laughs. Then maidens will dance and be glad, young men and old as well. I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow. (Jeremiah 31:13)

She aims to bury the ashes of the devastating divorce in her flower bed. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
She made it possible to have a good divorce because she put her children first. King Solomon then gave an order: "Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other." The woman whose son was alive was filled with compassion for her son and said to the king, "Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don't kill him!" But the other said, "Neither I nor you shall have him. Cut him in two!" Then the king gave his ruling: "Give the living baby to the first woman. Do not kill him; she is his mother." (1 King 3:25-28)

Dear God, thank you for the gifts of speech. Please cover my mouth when I am too quick to speak and help me mind my own business. Keep me from fighting when I don’t have things my way. Guide me into peaceful and healthy living that shows your love. I pray in Jesus name, Amen.

Please spend time reading your Bible with your child. Blessed is the one who reads the words, hear the words and keep the words. (Revelation 1:3)