Dear mom, Happy Birthday mom! I wish I can be with you on your special day. Please don’t cry. I miss you very much and I am very sorry but I did not know. Love, 1) From bully (in jail for stealing) 2) From victim (in jail for killing) 3) From bystander (in dust, because they did nothing)
You need to teach and listen to your child so you can have your cake and eat it toegther "Therefore, my brothers, I want you to know that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you. Through him everyone who believes is justified from everything you could not be justified from by the Law of Moses. (Acts 13:38-39) What is bullying: 1. Teasing 2. Threaten 3. Verbally harassing 4. Physical attacks Bullies are not model students and usually do not do well in school Bullies make their attack without any real reason because they see easy victim as target Bullies like to imitate others just for attention Bullies tend to have difficulty making true friends Bullies heroes are those who do beating and killing to get wealth and power Jesus said to him “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: Worship the Lord your God and serve him only.” (Matthew 4:10) Bullies believe they receive more respect by bullying behavior (especially among boys). "What comes out of a man is what makes him 'unclean.' For from within, out of men's hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man 'unclean.' ". (Mark 7:20-23) Bullies parents might believe in physical punishment. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4) Bullies parents give little affection to there children and has trouble sharing feelings. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (Deuteronomy 11:19) Bullies parent has inconsistent discipline and little/no monitoring of where their children are doing. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. (Colossians 3:20) "Who is it he is trying to teach? To whom is he explaining his message? To children weaned from their milk, to those just taken from the breast? (Isaiah 28:9) Bullying often leads to more serious acts of delinquency and criminal activity. Now Cain said to his brother Abel, "Let's go out to the field." And while they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him. (Genesis 4:8) Bullies are also more likely to use drugs and alcohol as adolescents. Helping with bully: Teach them to receive positive ways to gain attention and affection. Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD. (Psalm 34:11) Work on consistent set of discipline when they do wrong. Later Jesus found him at the temple and said to him, "See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you. (John 5:14) Get more involved in activities and become friends with other parents When bullies and victims learn, they can be great teachers of appropriate behavior. Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted. (Hebrew 2:18) Who are victims? They are labeled and follow them around from year to year Acts moody, sullen, or withdraws from family interaction Arrives home with bruises Wants to carry a protection item, such as a knife Strong dislike of going to school, especially times like recess or gym class Start to distrust all their peers at school and have problems making friends Helping with victims: Laugh or ignore comments or teasing and tell an adult. Teach me, O LORD, to follow your decrees; then I will keep them to the end. Give me understanding, and I will keep your law and obey it with all my heart. Direct me in the path of your commands, for there I find delight. Turn my heart toward your statutes and not toward selfish gain. (Psalm 119:33-36) Tell, shout “GO AWAY!” and walk away immediately (practice in the mirror). If your brother sins against you go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. (Matthew 18:15-16) Ask/tell firmly to stop and tell an adult. I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where 2 or 3 come together in my name, there am I with them." (Matthew 18:18-20) Do not teach your kids to hit or fight back but tell an adult. Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. (Luke 6:27-29) Victims sometime become bullies because they take matter on there own. "Put your sword back in its place," Jesus said to him, "for all who draw the sword will die by the sword. (Matthew 26:52) Parents please take time and talk to your children. Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (Matthew 28:18-20) Many times kids are embarrassed to tell their parents because their parents will blame them. Ask your child “how was school today?” Tell your child, it is not their fault and don't make your child feel like a wimp. Ask and it will be given to you; Seek and you will find; Knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. "Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for these sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:7-12)
I liked your post Jackie. It is nice to see how much you care.
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